Now let’s get to the point of this blog post ! 😊
Wherever you are in life and feel like all things are just crashing down; look at your covenant. The individual will only work as hard and consisted depending on how their covenant was made. If the individual is lacking hope, strength, determination, focus, and etc. These people need to look at the covenant that they made with God and truly ask if it was made with Christ in the center. Your just as strong as your covenant. If your covenant is weak then Christ is missing. Christ is our strength in times of weakness. Christ moves according to how submissive we are to his covenant. Being submissive 100% to the Lord requires us to be a broken vessel that allows the Lord to piece us together daily.
The Lord wants me to get more personal and I pray that those who are in need of hope and answer will allow God to give it to them. So here we go!
I was 21 years old when I married my husband who is still my husband now. We were literally fools in love. Why fools? We were running on all things visible to us and agreed that what we saw from each other was enough to join one another as one flesh. We married only being together 4 months. Previously to this marriage I had experience one of the most trying trials in my life which was domestic violence. So here I am only 4 months with this man and marriage was already part of our life. It felt good yet felt confusing as time went by. First of all it was extremely difficult when we married because we live in a time where marriage is not pushed for. Many were encouraging us to just stay boyfriend and girlfriend as long as we can without bringing marriage to the table. That shocked me but God warned us how crazy the world will get and marriage in today’s time is a whole other blog post.
I remember I really did want to marry my husband. I experienced God breaking me numerous of times within the first 4 months of our relationship and commitment truly felt like the next step. We were determined that we knew this was right yet Christ was missing in all our decisions. We married in city hall by the justice of the peace. Although we have 7 years married I never felt like a real wife. Confusing right ?
I grew up thinking marriage was a commitment that two individuals make with the permission of God. I’m not down talking those who have been married through justice of the peace. However my Spirit was troubled when we took that step. It had more to do with the location than the dedication we wanted to be for one another. About a year ago we decided to renew our vows. We wanted to marry in a church in God’s home. We wanted to feel his presence and the assurance that we were meant for one another for the solid purpose of God’s kingdom. I remember the Lord walking me through each step of how the ceremony had to be. Mind you I was done planning 6 months in and our wedding date was 4 months away. The week of the wedding the Lord wanted me to change everything. To the music, the bible content that was going to be explained, to the ceremony act of our unity. I was stressed yet confused. However I listened and because of it I get to see the fruit of me being obedient in that moment.
My ceremony was beyond imaginable. I felt the Lord rejoice in our unity and I felt it even more because he was our special guest. He was the one we wanted to do all this for. He was the one we truly wanted there with us. So to feel him as if he was the pastor speaking and uniting us was a miracle I have yet to understand. In that 45 minute ceremony which felt more like a private service for us two; callings were confirmed, talents were revealed, prayers were answered, our hope was refreshed and most importantly our covenant was made new.
I never felt like a wife when we were married at first nor did my husband feel like a husband, because we never had it approve by God. We were struggling from minor situations to huge ones because our covenant was not made correctly. Our covenant was a temporary one, which meant it had a time frame. Our covenant was not sealed by Christ. Us wanting to renew our vows and take the dedication the second time around to make it right, was exactly part of the big picture the Lord wanted to show us. Marriage is a gift from God, therefore he should approve and be invited into all marriages. When we invited the Lord to be the center of our marriage and commit to it; a new covenant was made and sealed. A new covenant that no man has the power to separate. A new covenant that will go through it all and not be shaken. A new covenant that will break all the generational curses both our families had. A new covenant that marked us as a Christian couple. A new covenant that will set a solid foundation through Christ that marriage is a gift and serves a purpose. Just like every gift it takes dedication to make it pretty, and worth having. It takes dedication and investment that will cost you at times. Marriage isn’t for everyone and the Lord warns us about it. Yet marriage is not something to take lightly because it has the power to destroy and refine.
Today marriages are not lasting long and the Lord reminded me why that is. Let’s face it the Lord himself knows that my marriage was on a breaking point, yet He saved it. The Lord wasn’t ruining my marriage. We were ruining our marriage by not having God involved. It took us to having to start from scratch to see how much marriages are failing because Christ isn’t the center. Our ceremony opened our eyes to see how much the divorce option is feed to us instead of words of encouragement to push through. Our preparation for the wedding allowed God to prepare us for the type of wife I needed to be for my husband and the type of husband he needed to be for me. In that process He reminded us that marriage is meant to bring us closer to the Lord and not separate us from the Lord.
We renewed our vows because we knew that we needed to have God step in as a 911 call. Everything from our first wedding was not what God had in mind for us but by his grace he gave us a new opportunity and restored what we purposely broke. We needed his presences with us. We needed to feel him literally a breath away. We needed him to take over because we refused to be a statistic and have the spirit of division continue to our two children. We knew we loved each other strong enough to give it another try but start from the very beginning. Not many families have that opportunity now a days and I believe that God has a purpose for those families. I’m grateful and in awe by God really noticing our hearts in our time of trials and really taking over.
I pray that we can all have a new covenant that is Christ approved, and sealed! A new covenant that breaks all chains and allow us to be freely new. A new covenant that is founded on Christ and guide by him! I know this post was longer than my normal post! Thank you all for taking the time to read it! I truly appreciate you all and love you dearly! May the Lord keep blessing you and guiding you all!
(P.S. My husband at the beginning of our marriage was not a Christian. After we renewed our vows the Lord was really shifting the atmosphere of our marriage and setting in place our new covenant. A year after renewing our marriage, my husband ACCEPTED CHRIST AS HIS LORD AND SAVIOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When I mentioned that my ceremony was a miracle unexplainable, this was why!!! )