“There is a common lie that floats around in mommy culture today and that is the lie that “‘Good’ moms do XYZ…”. We see this most often in the context of the mommy wars, where one group of mamas will regularly pit themselves against another group of mamas if they differ on issues of vaccination, breast-feeding, co-sleeping, education, family dynamics and activities, or birth methods.
There are many problems which arise as a result of this mommy war culture but just one is the problem of wrongly thinking that God has set forth, in His Word, a particular standard of what it means to be a “good” mom in each of those areas. The truth of the matter? He hasn’t.
In fact, I have good news for you, mama. The mile-long laundry list of expectations, standards, and laws regularly placed upon you by this culture as to what constitutes as “good” mothering choices is far, far longer than the list of things the Lord actually does ask us moms to do in His Word.
While the culture says you must make one particular choice on how to feed, birth, clothe, train, disciple, love, and educate your children, the Lord in His Word gives us no such list of standards. While the mommy culture says we “must” breastfeed (or not, depending on who you ask!), the Word of God sets forth no such law. While the culture says we “must” homeschool (or not!), the Word of God sets forth no such standard. While the culture says we “must” co-sleep (or not!), the Lord is silent on that issue.
The reality is this: all God has asked of us mamas is that we train our children in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6), speak to them of His Word (Deuteronomy 6:6-7), love them (Titus 2:4), and raise them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). That’s it! The rest is up to you. The rest is up to how He individually leads and directs you (James 1:5) to parent your own unique children according to your own unique family dynamics.
You have freedom, mama. Turn a deaf ear and a blind eye to the laws of mommy culture and instead fix your eyes and ears on Christ. He died to provide you with freedom (Galatians 5:1). Walk in that freedom and enjoy it, even in the midst of your motherhood.”
Bible verses to captivate those mommy war thoughts immediately! 👇🏼
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” ~ James 1:5 NIV
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” ~ Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV
“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” ~ Proverbs 22:6 NIV
“See that you do all I command you; do not add to it or take away from it.” ~ Deuteronomy 12:32 NIV
“So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.” ~ Galatians 5:16-18 NIV