3 Major things you have control over !

In this season I have learned so far that God is good at being God ! That as humans we always want control but yet what we can control, we don’t. We can’t control other people and everything that comes with them but we can control ourselves! We can control our emotions, attitudes, and choices! The sooner we give God all the freedom to be who He is in our life, He will start taking full control! However although God is God, He still waits for us to decide how to live and if He is invited fully!! .










Don’t overlook these major 3. For they are the reasons for your falls and blessings. It’s important to be aware of them. Now don’t take it overboard and become paranoid and all together just separate yourself from the world. Yet seek and ask for wisdom from our Lord. Don’t stress or worry over it but pray constantly for the Lord to guide you and help you with your feelings, attitude, and choices.




Here are some verses to keep in mind!

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” ~ Philippians 4:8-9 NIV

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,” ~ Colossians 3:23 NIV

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” ~ Romans 12:2 NIV

“If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” ~ 1 John 1:8-9 NIV

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” ~ Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.” ~ Galatians 5:22-26 NIV

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” ~ Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV

“Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.” ~ Colossians 4:2 NIV


Parenting Wisdom from God’s Word…Part 2


When children are out of line in action or attitude, it is important to rebuke them. Reprimanding, scolding, admonishing, and chastening are all part of biblical parenting. Notice, none of these involve screaming at children, beating children, demeaning children, or calling them names. Rebuking also does not mean over-correcting children; this leads to bitterness in the heart of the child (Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21).

Rebuking your children means you are calling them to account for their words or deeds. You are reminding them of the biblical standard and showing them how they have failed to meet it. This would be the “put off” of Ephesians 4:22-24. For this to be effective, these standards must be taught and upheld by everyone as part of everyday life in the home. While most children are not wise, they can be fairly discerning at a young age, especially when they see parents saying one thing and doing another.

It is easy to become weary in consistently calling them to account; some days it may seem that all you do is discipline! However, if that is the case, it is time well spent.


When children wander off the path of righteousness, they need to be corrected. Biblical correction involves informing them of the “put on” aspect of the previously cited Ephesians 4 passage. It is not enough to tell a child to stop doing something; parents must take the time to help their children understand the heart behind the sinful and disobedient actions that necessitate the corrective action. If the heart is not addressed parents run the real risk of creating a Pharisee who performs righteousness outwardly, but has a darkened heart (Matt. 15:8).

Correction often involves a physical component. Sometimes it is the use of the rod (Prov. 13:24; 22:15) or loss of privileges. The physical component of correction is commonly the only method employed. I would suggest that is a grave error on the part of parents, for then the opportunity for biblical discipling is lost; it becomes “punishment” instead of discipline. Biblical discipline involves all of these components.”

The peace of God

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” ~ Philippians 4:6-7 NIV

“Children are sometimes afraid in the dark. Fear gets into their hearts and nerves and they get into a tremendous state; then they hear the voice of mother or father, and all is quietened and they go off to sleep. In our own spiritual experience it is the same. Some terror comes down the road to meet us and our hearts are seized with a tremendous fear; then we hear our own name called, and the voice of Jesus saying, “It is I, do not be afraid,” and the peace of God which passes understanding takes possession of our hearts.

A man can never be the same again after having heard Jesus Christ preached. He may say he pays no attention to it; he may appear to have forgotten all about it, but he is never quite the same, and at any moment truths may spring up into his consciousness that will destroy all his peace and happiness.

Reflection Questions: What frightens me? When am I most likely to be afraid? What words of Jesus alarm me? What words of Jesus take my fear away?”

Parenting Wisdom from God’s Word

Ran into this online and thought it was a great message to share with all my parents! The complete message is very long so I decided to break them into pieces. This week we will focus on how much time has changed over the generations. Also on our teaching! How are we teaching our kids what they need to know in all aspect of life. Are we helping them nourish spiritually according to the word, socially how society wants us too, or a combination of both? Is there one more important to you over the other ? And if so why?

*Part of teaching a child is having clear instructions on what is said and expected!

“As an older woman and now as a grandma, I often receive questions about parenting. Times sure have changed since my husband and I were raising our children, and many of the discipline methods used then are no longer recommended by the “experts” of today. Young moms and dads are looking for help and wisdom. Regardless of the newest studies and books about parenting, the Lord has given timeless counsel in 2 Timothy 3:16-17: “All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, rebuking, correcting, training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work (NASB).”


The core of discipline is to disciple, to teach, to train, to clarify what is right and wrong through instruction. Children need these things, and they will not learn them from videos or children’s television programs. Parenting is not a passive activity; it demands consistent and personal involvement by mom and dad.

Dads have an enormous responsibility in discipling their children. Far too often I observe them leaving all of the child training up to their wives and only getting involved when mom is frazzled because the kids are out of control. Fathers are to teach their children to fear God and walk in His ways. They are to teach their children, both by modeling and by instruction, how to serve the Lord with all their heart and soul (Deut. 10:12).

Moms have the responsibility of supporting and enforcing the discipline methods that Scripture provides and that their husbands determine is the best course of action. There is little that is more destructive to family relationships than for mother to undermine the authority of the father, deciding that his instructions for discipline are arbitrary, or that her way is better. Usually, these arrangements are clandestine and the children are told, “Don’t tell dad!” There are no winners when this becomes the norm. The kids get mixed messages about discipline; the mother sets up a secret treaty with them and becomes an adversary of her husband instead of his partner in parenting.

Expectations for behavior must not only be made clear, but must also be enforced. If you are going to set a standard, you must be sure your children understand what it is. Ask clarifying questions such as, “What did I ask you?” “Do you understand what I want you to do?” When children fail to obey, it is important to discern if the failure was intentional disobedience, a lack of understanding, or simple childishness. Not all disobedience is willful; sometimes children are just being silly, squirrelly kids!”

Peace I leave with you

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” ~ John 14:27 NIV

“The idea of peace in connection with personality is that every power is in perfect working order to the limit of activity. That is what Jesus means when He says “My peace.” Never have in mind the idea of jadedness or stagnation in connection with peace. Health is physical peace, but health is not stagnation; health is the perfection of physical activity. Virtue is moral peace, but virtue is not innocence; virtue is the perfection of moral activity. Holiness is spiritual peace, but holiness is not quietness; holiness is the intensest spiritual activity.

The profound realization of God makes you too unspeakably peaceful to be capable of any self-interest.

Reflection Questions: In what ways does inactivity give a false sense of peace? Why is activity required for peace? Why does self-interest have to part in peace?”

New Mercy

“God Brings New Mercies Every Day 

Imagine lying in bed at night, wrapped up in your sheets, and replaying the day in your mind – all the things you wished you’d done or said differently. Or maybe your soul is downcast because of an overwhelming problem. You may even wish you could hit replay and start all over. Well, you can! With each new dawn, God’s love and mercies are there waiting for you to soak them in and start anew. Yesterday and its regrets are over, and His faithfulness and love are still burning strong with each new morning.”

Verses for guidance:

“But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation.” ~ Psalm 13:5 NIV

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort,” ~ 2 Corinthians 1:3 NIV

“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.” ~ 1 Chronicles 16:34 NIV

“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” ~ Lamentations 3:22-23 NIV

Prayer of the day:

Father, I am thankful and relieved that, because You love me so much, Your new mercies abound in my life every day. Thank you for showing me that I can put my trust in You. For your love toward me does not blow away like the wind but remind steadfast through it all. Thank you for your compassion toward us, that comforts us every morning and night, of every day. A compassion too profound to understand and a comfort so real and touchable. In You we can rejoice constantly. For You do not condemn us but wash us clean every time. In You everything is new and everyday is a new start. A new day with a new chance to get it right this time. Your patiences toward us is beyond amazing father just like your promise of new mercy every dawn. Amen.

Did you know joy is your right …

“Did you know joy is your right as a believer and follower of Jesus Christ? But the enemy wants you to feel beat-up and condemned for things you have done in the past. He wants to rob you of your God-given right to joy. We all have to hide in the wounds of Calvary. We have all fallen short of the standard. We have ALL rebelled against God’s authority over our life. But we are also blessed because our sins have been forgiven.

A lot of Christians don’t understand the power of God’s grace. They are forgiven and they are on their way to heaven, but they think they have to pay for what they did by being sad and beating up on themselves when nothing could be further from the truth. Grace wins! But until you acknowledge and accept that, you will allow the enemy to steal your joy.

Read all of Psalm 32 and Psalm 51. Remember to take note of anything that stands out to you as you read.


Where would you rate your joy on a scale between 1 and 10, with 1 being completely nonexistent and 10 being as good as it can possibly be?

What would it take to move that score closer to a 10?


If you are not full of joy, then you are not full of the Word of God. He wants you to have joy, whether you believe you deserve it or not. Psalm 16:11 says, “In His presence is fullness of joy!” “

If you have struggled to find joy, take some steps to get closer to receiving it!

Steps ⬇️

1. Identify what is stealing your joy.

2. How is it holding you hostage or how are you letting it hold you hostage.

3. Begin to pray about it. Not just once a day but every time you feel the need to! Do it daily!

4. Start reading the word. Verses that speak into your process, copy it down and post in in common areas. Like your bedroom, bathroom, car and etc. The more you see it the more you will remember it and apply it.

5. If it’s possible take yourself out of all things that is not edifying you. Negative people, movies, music, group chats, social media, or social places.

6. Take away the responsibility of joy from the thing or person you placed it on and bring it back to God’s hands.

7. Speak, see, and hear everything about joy.